Daniel A. Bochner, Ph.D.

How do we get together, why are we attracted, and what goes wrong? What revs the engine, keeps it running fast, and what leads to engine breakdown? Those are the questions addressed in New Cars, Fast Cars, Backfires, and Crashes. In The Dating Fantasy, the natural falling-in-love phenomenon of being love-addicted or infatuated is discussed in terms of projecting the attributes of our ideal mate onto a new found love. Of course, sexual attraction or chemistry is typically a central factor in new love, and issues related to sex continue throughout life. In Sex is not a Drive: It's Just Real Important, the true reasons why sexual activity is such a driven behavior are uncovered and lead to a better understanding of love and happiness. In Affairs and Divorce, the all too common circumstances involving the link between affairs and divorce is examined. The articles in this section generally aim at the heart of coupling. Coupling is a part of almost everyone's life and dating usually begins with our needs and desires as well as how we view our future lives. Sexual desire is always a part of coupling, even when actual sexual activity is postponed, restrained, withheld or renounced. Unfortunately, sexual activity is also often involved in the ending of relationships. Coupling always involves getting the engine started, and the engine must be kept warm. But running hot, without a doubt, can lead to definite instability, and often grave danger.