Daniel A. Bochner, Ph.D.

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Savannah, GA 31405

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  • Articles for IndividualsClick to open the Articles for Individuals menu
    • Section 1 - Getting You Working Well
    • You Need to Know You're Great
    • Changing Our Past Adaptation For Our Future
    • Balance and the Motivation to Change
    • Undoing the Troubled-Past/Troubled-Future Dilemma
    • The Importance of Growth
    • Section 2 - Development: Troubleshooting for Wear and Tear
    • Low Self-Esteem and Its Connection to Cognitive Dissonance
    • How Identical Circumstances Lead to Opposite Personalities
    • Creating Strength From Weakness
    • Loss and Hope
    • Section 3 - Living: Your Everyday Maintenance in Interaction
    • Criticism and Us
    • Balancing the Animal and the Spiritual
    • The Power and Control Addiction
    • Understanding Boundaries
    • The Failure of Empathy in Everyday Life
    • The Crippling Effects of Worry
    • Section 4 - Tools: Caring for You and Your Communication with Others
    • Breathe!!!
    • Be Your Own Best Friend
    • The "Big What If..." - Stress Management for Tough Times
    • The Writing Cure (for Sleep or Trauma)
    • Assertiveness: The 30% Solution
  • Articles for CouplesClick to open the Articles for Couples menu
    • Section 5 - Can Two Parts Beat as One?
    • Women and Men
    • The Three A's of Relationship: Acceptance, Accommodation, and Assertiveness
    • Connection and Independence
    • Understanding Personality Styles in Couples
    • Section 6 - New Cars, Fast Cars, Backfires and Crashes
    • The Dating Fantasy
    • Sex is Not a Drive, It's Just Real Important
    • Affairs and Divorce
    • Section 7 - Tools for Making Yourself Fully Understood
    • Communication From the Heart
    • Key Signals - The Key to Jump Starting Change in Relationships
    • "I" Statements
  • Articles for FamiliesClick to open the Articles for Families menu
    • Section 8 - Family Relations
    • From Id to Family System or The Id is the Engine in the Great Life Machine
    • Emotional Space
    • Section 9 - Parenting
    • The Essentials of Parenting
    • Who's to Say What's "Right" in Parenting?
    • You Don't Know How Much They Love You
    • Section 10 - Building Good Kids
    • From Materialism to Integrity: The Building Blocks of the Healthy Human Structure
    • Freedom and Responsibility
    • Bullying
    • "Be A Man"
    • It Must be Hard to be a Girl
    • Section 11 - Using Discipline
    • Leaks in Discipline
    • The "Satisfaction Meter"
    • It's So Hard to be Bad: So For Heaven's Sake, Just Be Good!
    • Good Discipline for Acting Out Kids
    • Sample Reward System
  • Articles on Psychological DiagnosesClick to open the Articles on Psychological Diagnoses menu
    • Section 12 - Major Diagnoses
    • Depression
    • Anxiety
    • Bipolar Disorder
    • Psychotic Disorders
    • Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)
    • Attention Deficit (Hyperactivity) Disorder (ADD or ADHD)
    • Section 13 - Personality Diagnoses
    • Histrionic Personality Disorder
    • Passive-Aggressive Personality Disorder
    • Narcissistic Personality Disorder
    • Borderline Personality Disorder
    • Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder
    • The Other Personality Disorders
    • Section 14 - Addictions
    • Addiction: A Relationship to Remember
    • Codependency

Section 8 - Family Relations

 

Families can be truly complicated. Nevertheless, it is essential to understand how the depth of psychology comes directly from family dynamics. When viewed through an understanding of the connection between inner, life sustaining and protecting, motivations, and how those motivations are nurtured, damaged, neglected, or balanced, it becomes clear that the depths of the psyche, at either the individual or the group level, are similar within us all. Our lives, as unique as they might seem, fall into very definite patterns. Because the motivation to live is essentially the same in everyone, the pitfalls in living are readily understood once one has a true grasp of family functioning and interpersonal influence from the depths of each individual and throughout the family unit. Although the topic can be quite complicated, this section provides articles that will shed light and provide clarity. In the article, From Id to Family System, the mechanisms of human life are discussed from the engine outward. Within the engine of the system is our desire to thrive itself, and that desire influences every other part of the machine. When the individual machine loses balance, the balance it seeks within others and from the environment can seem to unbalance everything. On the other hand, that lack of balance is yet just another kind of balance itself within the Great Life Machine, where ultimately some kind of balance is always found or entropy (the disintegration of everything) prevails. Emotional Space, the other article in this section, discusses how emotion takes up space, and how space, too, must be balanced within the family.

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322 Stephenson Avenue, Ste B
Savannah, GA 31405

ph: 912-352-2992
fax: 912-352-3447